It’s okay to cry
Do I Have To Be A Pain Slut?
As many of you know, Ms. Delia has this reputation of being a hardcore sadistic bitch, that I love to play on the edge and get off on hearing your screams and making you cry. Now, while that’s true, I can also be very sensual. My cock control and cockteasing usually doesn’t include pain at all. Even when I do things like impact play, I can spank you softly just as easily as I can cane you and leave you unable to sit for a week! So, the answer is, no, to play with me, you don’t have to be a pain slut. All you really need is a willingness to do what I demand.
Pain Is Different For Everyone
Even if you do enjoy pain play, you may experience different types of pain in a variety of ways. You may not even call yourself a pain slut at all. Take Jack, for instance. Jack enjoys some types of pain play, but he lumps it all together as “sensation play.” Some submissives enjoy the pain they get from impact play because the sting or the thud happens, then is starts to go away, then it happens again. Others like the continuous sensation provide by something like clothespins on their balls or nipple clamps – while others just can’t tolerate the constant squeezing. And that’s okay.
Communication
Just like any other aspect of BDSM and playing with your Mistress
, it’s very important that you communicate. Things may even change during a session. Jack can take more intense impact play as we spend more time playing, and as he goes deeper into subspace. If you can only take having your nipples clamped for five minutes, you need to let her know that. A lot can happen in five minutes!
Oh yes Ms Delia, another topic near and dear to my kinky heart and naughty fetishes. i must say, even though You refer to Your reputation of being a hardcore sadistic bitch, i truly appreciate the wonderful care You have always taken of me during (and especially after) some of our extended sessions involving all sorts of “sensation” play. i know my willingness to demonstrate the level of commitment to You as one of my Primary Chastity Mistresses by enduring all sorts of sinsations, qualifies me to be placed in Your category of “pain slut”, among the huge spectrum of eclectic fantasies we have shared. 😉
That said, i believe Your comment on communication being essential for this type of relationship to be mutually enjoyable. The other essential i have learned is trust. i know You trust me to tell You when something is no longer enjoyable, and i have implicit trust in You that You will heed my plea. It is true that a lot can change in five minutes. As You have seen, i am a believer in safe words as a wonderful way to communicate that doesn’t necessarily cause a change in the level of Domme’ or sub space we may be sharing, they just reinforce and increase the level of trust i have in You to offer for You to do things to my body that i wouldn’t normally do to myself, or let anyone i don’t have implicit trust in do to me.
i must also share Your technique of laying sensations around my body; using multiple instruments to vary sting, thud, and ache building intensity and then switching between the tools and varying the intensity and duration of each, is extraordinarily effective for submerging me into a deep abyss in subspace quickly. i do confess though, it is hearing the palpable excitement in Your voice and feeling the rampant energy You emit while doing this, makes every sensation worth it to me. Your style, for lack of a better word, is seldom emulated, or enjoyed as much in my experiences with others.
The last thing i would like to share with others (and You), is the wonderful aftercare You provide that reassures me in my amoebic state, that i have pleased You and that our sensation play: impact, nipple or CBT, have all been part of a scene and that our mutual respect and appreciation for each other, both in our scene roles, but also as people is reaffirmed.
You have been a great mentor and teacher to me in the world of pain play and You know how much i enjoy being Your pain (and other types of) slut. i look forward eagerly to my next lesson.
What a nice comment kneel!
You are correct. While I identify as being a tough Mistress, I am quite caring. I do play safely. I do use safe words. I believe in communication!
My favorite word you used here was TRUST! I believe in engendering trust for sure!
Thank you so much for this comment. I can’t wait to play again!
Ms. Delia