A newly Dominant Wife can be an amazing new dynamic to a relationship, especially if you have been submissive and in a vanilla relationship. When I talk to submissive, married men, many express that they would like for their wives to take on a more dominant role in the relationship. I often tell them how to be submissive to their wives without her having to be dominant, because submission is given. From time to time, a wife who receives this positive and serving attention will come to see her husband as more submissive and she will take on a more dominant role.
A Caller’s Wife Becomes Dominant
I hope you and Jack have settled into your new home down in Florida. Since we last conversed my sex life with my wife has slowly changed toward more FemDom. If you don’t mind I’ll just give you a quick rundown. My wife had started enjoying me giving her oral and she commented on how when my cock was locked up how she thought I did a better job and such.. Off and On. She didn’t seem really that into the FemDom thing. Until one day she put on her boots, the tallest, sexiest ones she had. She wore them to bed one night. I was very aroused. I started rubbing my cock against them. I went down on her and, she had me grab onto the heel also. She had an explosive orgsasm. I then was told by her to rub my cock on her boots and jerk off and cum on them. She didn’t have me lick the cum off, I would have, but that’s not really her thing.
Ever since that night her confinance has grown. The boots I think made her feel powerful and sexy and in control. We have been slowly going down a path with her being more dominant. She has started stepping on my cock with her boots. We are playing with a lot of denial and chastity even. This last two weeks she has ruined my only orgsasms. She wears her boots to bed when she wants sex. I haven’t penetrated her much at all since this started. I only give her oral sex. Right now I am locked up in my new birdlock. We have found that the soft cage works for me. My wife has told me to expect lots of time in my cage next month. I just wanted to first of all let you know how things are going with me, and second of all thank you so much for all the guidance you have provided me over the last year of so. Hopefully things will continue to be spicy with my wife and I. I hope all is well with you. Maybe I can call you sometime next month and fill you in on more of the story.
How to play with your newly Domme Wife
Here are my three top tips:
- Communicate a lot and negotiate your kinks. Talk OFTEN. Communication is key in kink!
- Take it slow. One of you may be more into something than the other. Give new things TIME!
- Have patience and know not everything must be perfect, but is instead a HOT experiment!
I am always happy to help you become more submissive to your wife so she can take on that Dominant role that may be hidden inside her!
I love your post Ms Delia!
Thank you for posting this, Ms.Delia. Reading things like this are so interesting and educational. My spouse is vanilla in almost every way, but she is dominant. We both know that most times she will orgasm and I will not, sometimes she gives me permission, but rarely, lol.. She knows that my pleasure comes from giving to her. Sometimes when she is riding me, she’ll smack me across the face and tell me not to cum which is amazing. I hope someday, we’ll experiment with other parts of a Femdom relationship.. Any suggestions?
Ms. Delia no one knows more about a healthy BDSM relationship. Loved your post.
Thanks, Andy!
You might have been a bit of an inspiration for it too!
🙂 Ms Delia
wes,
I like what your wife does to you! Face slapping is just so delicious! I suggest being as submissive as you can to her & for her. The more of a beta role you take on, the more she should shift to the Alpha role. I really like your question, and I think I will blog more about the topic this week! Get some books. I like Christina Abernathy’s Manuals. Get both. Give her the one for Mistresses. It is basic enough for beginners but advanced enough that she shold move quickly through it. You can do the exercises in the submissive manual too! Find out more about your submission!
🙂 Ms. Delia
Thanks!
I love writing about things near and dear to my heart! a D/s relationship takes patience and balance, but when it works, it is beautiful!