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Finding Subspace

Finding Subspace:You Have To Find Your Own Way

Subspace is defined very well by Urban Dictionary (believe that or not) as:

…That very special place the submissive enters when he/she totally trusts his/her Dominant, and totally immerses in an intense scene. The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point.

It is the responsibility of the Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, as he/she has trusted him to do. It is also the Dominant’s responsibility after the scene to help the sub to return to “vanilla space” after the scene. This entails providing both physical and emotional assurance to the sub, until he/she regains his/her sense of self, and is known as, “aftercare”.

But the question I am asked often is, how can I actually get into subspace?

Finding Subspace

victorias secret - CopyFor some of you, it’s easy.  You feel that collar slip around your neck, or that cage snap shut around your cock, and you are there.  For others, it takes more.  Maybe a spanking that starts out gentle and progressively becomes more intense, or a teasing session with edges that go one forever.  It may not even be physical.  It could be just listening to your Femdom and being told you’re a slut…a bitch…her whore is enough to get you into subspace.

Subspace Requires Trust

Submissives in subspace are very vulnerable.  Yes, we make you get naked for us, and that makes you vulnerable and exposed, but this exposes not only your body, but your mind and your heart as well.  And to do that, you really need to have trust in your Domme.  If you’re worried about if she’s going to hurt you or push you past your limits, that won’t be able to allow you to slip down into the subspace abyss.  I take great responsibility with you and consider it an honor when you slip into submission with me.  And once you’re there?  Oh, home may be much more pleasant, but you still love being in in that sexy space, don’t you?

Beg for subspace with Mistress Delia!

4 comments to Finding Subspace

  • Mistress Amber

    I find that vulnerability with nudity and the thrill of CFNM is definitely a great ‘doorway’ to subspace, because they instantly bare all and it makes me asking for more even easier because they have already given so much of themselves already. So many subs naturally ache to please, and that combination of exposure and pleasure often pushes them exactly where we both want them to be. What an inviting post…..

  • kneel cc

    i totally agree that each person’s space in unique to them. i also know that each submersion into my sub space is a bit different as well. For me, there are a few variables i have noted that influence how deep into the “into the moment” level of subspace i can get into. my level of preparedness; cleaning my mind and body; opening my chakras and sensing energy from earth; sky; and Mistress helps quicken my descent. The personal connection i have with the person i’m playing with at the time. i have found subspace playing with someone i’ve just met at a play party. Yet it is very different than playing with the key holder of the padlock on my collar, and the unification of mind, heart, and body energy we are able to homogenize.i believe You’re totally correct that for one to get nto subspace, there has to be trust. Thank You for that.

    Another variable on the depth of submerssion is aftercare expectations. i find knowing i will be cared for as i return from the euphoric bliss of my subspace makes it easier for me to relax and give up complete control, allow the endorphines to flow free throughout my entire body; While knowing there will need to be a transition from subspace back to equilibrium.

    Please know i am eagerly awaiting my next submersion under Your caring control.

  • Empress Delia

    kneelcc, this is VERY well said.

    Yes, subspace is quite different from person to person, and even differes with the same person depending on the scene. You are spot on. And I do agree the key to subspace truly is trust!!

    🙂 I can’t wait to take you there again!

  • I have made the decision after reading this; and, seeing how You look in this picture – that I want only You as my Fem-dom! I have found what I am looking for in a Goddess, if she will have me.

    I would love to be told that I am Your slut, bitch; and, whore would be enough to get me into subspace.

    I would love to slip down into the subspace abyss with You.

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