It isn’t punishment!
BDSM Negative Reinforcement
Over on Tell Me Your Fantasy, Ms Layla just did a wonderful post about empowering the Submissive, wherein she called me a cockteasing ballbuster! I accept the title, but I wanted to talk about how, even in a hard-core scene, there’s room for empowerment.
In Negative Reinforcement a particular behavior is strengthened by the consequence of the stopping or avoiding of a negative condition.
A submissive is placed in a cage and immediately receives a mild electrical shock on his testicles. The shock is a negative condition for the sub. The submissive places himself into a particular slave presentation position, and again the shock stops. The behavior of being in a slave presentation position is strengthened by the (positive)consequence of the stopping of the shock.
- Being ignored by Mistress is a negative condition for most submissives. The submissive misbehaves and Mistress punishes which could be a more positive consequence than being ignored. The next day the submissive again makes a mistake, and Mistress punishes. Now the behavior of making a mistake is strengthened by the consequence of Mistress paying attention. This way of conditioning can also create predicaments as here the submissive would choose the better of two negatives. Quite the mindfucks!
Punishment is the opposite of reinforcement, and weakens a behavior because a negative stimulus is introduced/experienced as a consequence of the unwanted behavior.
Which behaviors do you need to change? Are you a compulsive stroker who needs to be taught control? Your Cock Tease Mistress can whip you and your masturbatory habits right into shape. I can get in your head and thoughts, and can completely control that cock. I know you want me to tease you. Come to me, and let’s begin your cock control training!
Goddess Delia being ignored by you for my mistakes is a terrible punishment for me to suffer through. Having an electrical punishment device around your cock and balls is also an affective punishment method. Keeping me in a chastity device is its own type of punishment. Punishing me for my poor behavior in all your possible different ways certainly makes me stop and think and helps me return to “It is all about what Goddess and Mistress want.” All the various punishments can be such a mind fuck for me when you move between them and I never know which type will come next. But I must admit that I crave Mistress and you correcting my poor behavior knowing that you are helping me to be a better pet and knowing that you care for me.
little1,
While I can’t strap an electric device to you, I do hope you have learned from being ignored. Lessons like this are important, and keep you thinkng of proper behavior! It is exactly what Mistress wants.
Ms. Delia
as long as the punishment doesn’t involve spanking…I hate getting spanked…nothing worse than that. *whislte* *whistle* *eye roll*
no? not buying it? Damn.
I agree Ms Delia. Playing is one level, but actual behavioral changes can only occur when the attention (or lack of it) is of a type not desired. In any sort of consensual relationship though punishments should be unwelcome, but not to the point of total avoidance.
I definitely could use some behavior moedification – touch/stroke too much and don’t exercise proper self control. and, I tend to curse too often. There are many more behaviors I am sure that a mistress could see her way to correct
goddess what were may come and go. We live to serve you, satisfy you. Goddess we surrender to you, we know you make us a better a person.
Mistress… i do so want to please You. i know You will take whatever measures are necessary to ensure that Your newest pet behaves in the way a proper sissy submissive should. You now own me, mind, body, will and of course cock (or rather sissy clitty) and i will not stroke unless given permission by my Mistress and Owner. i will dress in panties to remind me that i am a sissy and my little sissy stick is useless except as a source of punishment for misbehavior and as a toy for Your amusement. Thank You for taking me in Mistress… i surrender to You.
Your obedient submissive sissy… pantysue
Well, pantysue:
I know you are going to be such a perfect sissy! I already love what you have done for http://www.femfabulous.com when it relaunches 🙂 I am having fun with that sissy stick too!
Ms. Delia
Thank you andy!
That was perfectly said. You are striving to be such a good submissive toy too! You are doing so very well.
Ms. Delia
Behavior modification is pretty cool, brett!
I think we can control that masturbation! I think you should follow the anti-independence program of tease and denial in July.
We will start that behavior modification!
Ms. Delia
*makes note* Well-spanked does NOT respond to spanking. Must find alternative.
._. No, I did not buy that, lol!!
I like what you said about playing versus actual behavior change. I do think they interconnect often!
Behavior change is NOT punishment.
🙂 Ms. Delia