Safe, Sand and Consensual is a well known acronym in BDSM. SSC means that both Domme and sunmissive negotiate a scene, and trust exists between them…at least for the scene. It makes each person free to get fully into the scene and really let go!
Safe, Sane And Consensual Kink
SSC Play!
This is how we play here at Enchantrix Empire. SSC play means that whatever is done to you is consensual – you want it to happen. Part of the fantasy sometimes is the coercion of doing something like sucking cock, or when a Mistress has you wear panties, but deep down, you do it because you want to – whether it’s because that’s your kink, or you’re not sure if it is, but you’re willing to try it for her. Safe and sane mean exactly that. We won’t do anything that would harm you, is unhealthy, or that would be too out there.
Risk Aware Consensual Kink
RACK is a step up from SSC. It’s a little more on the edge BDSM play. Notice consensual agreement is still a part of the whole dynamic. The parties involved in the play are agreeable to what is going on. The difference is that they’re also aware that they activities are riskier, and might cause a bit more danger involved than in a SSC scene. A caning could be SSC – and they are when we do that here – but if the limits are pushed, it can escalate to something that’s more along the lines of RACK.
Right marcie? Oh marcie is a subbie who BEGS for RACK play!
When you play with someone, you need to know which limits their playing with, and those have to be within your comfort level as well.
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This is such an important topic to discuss because I know several clients who come here to LDW because they know we can put forth the illusion of dangerous play, but they trust us enough to know we would never do anything to harm them. It is really important if you’re going to be allowing your limits to be pushed that you only play with people you can trust.
Well you know my limits certainly. Just want to let you know I was able to take the next larger sound, a fr28, during a session with Mistress Piper the other day. It felt huge. I thought I was only going to take it part way when suddenly my cock stretched that little extra bit and it dropped in almost all the way. I couldn’t keep it in much longer after that because I couldn’t hold off my orgasm and didn’t want to cum with such a big sound inside me. Well have to try together next time so you can see.
Ms Delia…great post and so true. I love the dynamic of being coerced into doing something deep down the mistress knows I want to do. And yes, sometimes this is something I already wanted to do but needed a mistresses guidance to get me there. And other times it’s something I would have never thought or known I wanted to do without the mistress “pulling it out of me”, breaking down my walls of inhibition, and expanding my preconceived boundaries/limitations.
Thanks for this education blog for Your new fans. i don’t remember when i first learned of these acronyms from You and Ms. Olivia, but find them most helpful in negotiating scenes with potential Mistresses when i attend play parties in my area. And thank You for always adhereing to them when we play vicariously in our sessions.
i think You hit the key point when You mentioned “trust” above. i do love the mutual trust and respect we have developed over the years. Thank You for pushing my limits and facilitating exploration of so many aspects of kink from my list of “naughty little secrets.” i love that we have also established safe words to communicate when limits are being pushed a bit to far to keep the scene moving in a positive direction. i think the one time i had to say “yellow” and Your response greatly increased the level of mutual trust; You in me for communicating honestly; and mine in You for immediately addressing the issue and continuing our scene without disruption in our retrospective spaces.
The greater the risk the more rewarding the outcome can be is my motto.
Ms Delia ~ I love this post. It’s important for everyone to understand the ground rules and know the other person’s limits. It’s also important to push those limits. But knowing how far you can push them or how far you are willing to go is fun ~ and safe ~ when you can trust your partner. This makes me think, I haven’t pushed my limits in awhile.
Excellent and important post, Ms. Delia! SSC and RACK both have their place in BDSM. It’s very important for a subbie to understand that while his Mistress might hurt him (if he asks for it), she will not harm him. That distinction is key in consensual play. Establishing a foundation of trust should precede any scene. Once you have that, you’re free to go wild!