I was recently asked the question by email, “Do I need to like pain to be submissive?” Good question! I know that there are 2 kinds of pain, emotional and physical. This email was about physical pain and submission. The easy answer is, “No!” But read on.
Submitting to Pain
Many submissives think that pain is an integral part of BDSM play. And who wouldn’t? The classic version of the Femdom wields a whip of a crop. The image of the submissive tied to a St. Andrew’s cross while his Domme flogs him, or over her knee while she gives him a bare-assed spanking. Those activities can be moderated by the Domme. Even a cane, when used properly, can just leave a little sting – as opposed to a burning red strip across your ass! But do you really need to give pain to your Mistress to show that you are submissive?
Not All Submissives Are Masochists
The simple answer is “No, not at all!” The great thing about BDSM is that there’s no one way to do it. So the quick, short answer is no – you don’t have to be a masochist, a pain slut, or even like pain to be a submissive. Perhaps your interest lies in guided masturbation and having your cock controlled. Maybe you are a chastity slave and want your orgasms completely and totally controlled. Maybe you love worshipping feet. A sissy may love the feeling of silky clothes and the thought of sucking cock, but wants nothing to do with pain.
The main point here is when you serve a Mistress, your service and submission to her are unique to you. No one submissive is the same. Ms. Delia likes that!
Tell me what you think about pain as a submissive.
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