Are You A Bedroom Submissive?
Bedroom Submissive
Do you and your Mistress have a relationship where you’re equal out in public, but as soon as that bedroom door closes, you’re her slut, to do with as she pleases? That would be a Bedroom Submissive.
In the rest of your everyday life, you’re pure vanilla, and no one would ever know that once that door shuts, you’re on your knees, ready to take a strap-on deep in your ass if that’s what she wants. Almost always, this is a sexual Domme/submissive relationship. I mean, there aren’t a lot of chores to be done in the bedroom – maybe the occasional manicure, pedicure or massage, but the ultimate goal is the orgasm – many for her, and maybe a ruined one for you after a long period of tease and denial! Then you walk out, and it’s back to the vanilla world.
Ms. Delia has a Bedroom Submissive
Jack may be many types of submissives, but I think I enjoy him most as this type. Unless we are at a naughty fetish event, we present as a typical, professional, and dare I say vanilla couple on the outside! In the bedroom we are anything but that! Out comes the leather, the sex toys, the restraints, and we both know who is in charge of the bedroom scenes! While we have negotiated limits, the bedroom is a place where my submissive feels free and excited to explore even more of his submissive side. Bedroom submissives are very open to experiment, or at least to trying what Mistress wants at least once for the thrill!
Have you ever been a bedroom submissive? How do you feel about this type of submission?
Well that’s close to me but I think I would no called a house sub. As soon as we are in the house I am her sub. We have taken it outside but then only out off town were we go to pubs or clubs and I am made to tell others about how I am kept.
~~looks at door~~
That’s the bedroom, nothing ever happened there.
I’m not sure bedroom submissive is the best term but it is close.
I certainly am a psychological submissive as discussed earlier but this silly notion that I have in my head is that much of the time my domme and I would be equals and on equal level. Well, not fully equal, I can’t help myself (and don’t want to) and would always be submissive to some degree.
But I don’t have to ask to go for a walk or buy new clothes etc. unless such action contradicts an assignment.
However, as soon as she snaps her fingers or whatever agreed upon signal, regardless of where we are, I slip into submissive mode, so-called “subspace” where I do everything without question and almost nothing without orders.
The domme would have a lot of power because I would have no choice. So for example if I had to go to work she could prevent it by snapping her fingers, and I would have to obey, resulting in loss of job. But that’s why it would be extremely important to have a domme I trust not to abuse that power. I _want_ her to have that power but know when not to use it. If that makes any sense.
Maybe I’m asking too much but I want her to have that power because I want to truly feel like I’ve given myself completely over. But at the same time, perfect weather after a spring rain and I know the salamanders will be crawling, sorry but I’m heading out. She can come along if she wants but it isn’t going romantic and the kind of dirty we’ll get isn’t kink. Snapping her fingers to subspace me in that type of scenario too often and, well, I hope I never have to find out how I would handle that, because I don’t know.
Anyway, most of the time even though I would always have a submissive air around me, I suspect things would be somewhat vanilla. I kind of suspect it is that way with many if not most healthy / successful BDSM couples.
I think this one is a bit closer, Ms. Delia.
Although instead of my submission being limited to a room, it’s limited to when a Mistress uses her sexuality against me.
But then, on one level, as I’m kept in denial I am constantly submitting!
No, I haven’t had the pleasure yet, and I feel Jealous of those who have!
goddess i feel this type is Good for me. However Its you who is always choose my type. I am yours and only yours. I love my goddess and Would do any thing What you say to do. You control me.
Oh andy,
I am sure you would make a lovely bedroom submissive! I know you love being controlled so very much.
Ms. Delia
Maybe one day, vanessa!
I love your EE blog about your first time with a man. Very sexy. While you were not a bedroom submissive there, I think you came pretty close!
Ms. Delia
I like the thought, peter!
You likely are a bedroom submissive 🙂 I think that is pretty sexy!
Ms. Delia
Alice,
This makes a lot of sense. If there is a heirarchy of power, then even when acting as equals there would be that control aspect you would see. Consider me and jack at the grocery store. We look like any other couple, but I hold the list, and at times will just name the item or point to it and he grabs it. It is subtle, and something that would go unnoticed by most, but it is there.
The panties and butt plug under the jeans also go unseen 😉
I think a woman in control is amazing when she respects the power she has over you, and when you can totally trust her so that you can slip into subspace.
I understand 😉
Ms. Delia
🙂 But doesn’t your edging happen in there?
Ms. Delia
Interesting robin –
So you submit as soon as you cross the threshhold into the home. I like that! Being kept feels lovely, doesn’t it?
Ms. Delia