Your Comments Are Interesting

A Power Exchange

Last week, I wrote a post about how I don’t think submission is necessarily a gift – how I look at it as an exchange.  An exchange of power, an exchange of control, or just an exchange of sensations.  I got a few emails from you all talking about your ideas and feelings on what I had written. One of the most interesting comments came from one of my regular callers, kneel.

Gifts For My Pleasure

Kneel agreed that for him as a submissive, that the power he freely gives over to me is an exchange, and that he had never thought of that as being a gift.  Our arrangement is mutually enjoyable, and we each get something out of it.  His comment though was this:  : “ i believe that when i use the word gift during a session, i’m referring to those special things that i willingly do to enhance Your pleasure, strictly because i know You enjoy it.”  And the more I thought about it, the more I could agree with that.  I guess what I’m trying to say is that a submissive can give their Dominant a gift in the act of submission.  I just don’t think that the submission itself is a gift.

No Expectation

That’s the key for me as to whether or not it’s a gift – if it’s given without an expectation of anything in return.  Now, many of you are cock whores – you love to suck cock for me!  What if, though, you really weren’t into that, but you did it simply because you know how I much I enjoy it?  That would be a gift within your overall submission.  I’m going to leave you with one last thing from kneel – “my usage of the word gift was meant really more to say i trust You enough to allow You to do something to me that i didn’t expect to enjoy.”  And, when you give me that trust – that is a gift I really do cherish.