This week I am in a mood to discuss some of the finer points of BDSM.
Domme space is wild! What is it? Think of Domme space as controlled sub space
Ruined Orgasm Mistress Delia
In the past, I have often talked about subspace, and Top space is the Dominant equivalent of that wonderful, blissful state of being. But, just as I am a controlling Femdom, Top space for me is a controlled trip into that wonderful world. Unlike you, my precious subbie, who gets to let go and just fly – or as Jack says, “Fall down the rabbit hole,” your Domme’s Top space has to have aspects of maintaining perspective and control of the situation.
How Top space and Sub space Are the Same
You know how when you’re in subspace, you seem to have no attachment to the outside world? Everything you feel is focused on your hard throbbing cock, or that burning ass? It’s sort of the same in Domme space – except I don’t lose touch with the outside world. I become focused completely on you, almost hyper-focused on our session, and what I’m doing to you. I’ve actually been at play parties where I had started out playing with a sub in an empty room, and by the time I’m done, quite a crowd is watching us – and I never noticed them. And when that happens, you should feel happy pet. You’ve gotten all the attention – and we all know what an attention whore you are!
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Excellent post Empress Delia! i’m always fascinated by psychology of the scene from both the sub and the Domme positions. Interesting to learn more from Yours. Sadly, I’ve approached but have yet to reach subspace. Failure on my part, not devoting enough time, but too, not being entirely submissive due to missing that level of respect (for various reasons; intelligence, appearance, creativity) it requires. Hoping, and optimistic it will happen one day with the right Mistress(es). Great post!
Thanks, sissypig
The psychology of BDSM does interest me too.
Oh Mistress, thank You so much for sharing Your perspective on Domme’ space and what it is like to You. i am so glad that You trust me enough to permit me to provide lift for Your wings during our sessions to soar to ever higher altitudes of said space as i strive in my sub space to provide for Your optimal pleasure.
i confess it is sometimes more difficult for me to trust You are right where You want to be in our vicarious sessions than when i play with a partner at a party. Your post above has helped with that immensely. i do love it when You start laughing, and find it difficult to find the right words to say at the end of our sessions. Sunday was phenomenal. 😉
Ms Delia ~ Thank you for sharing this posts. So much is made of subspace ~ which is awesome. But just dommespace is. There is something so relaxing and totally encompassing when you are there. I can imagine you there not being aware of anyone else entering the room. No one else would matter. Just you and your sub. Great post Ms Delia
I have heard this term before “sub space” and thought about what it is for me. I think it generally has to do with penis size. Basically almost any time women bring up their love of endowed males (whether directly or indirectly) I feel sort of “quiet” and I feel like I move into submissiveness. I don’t feel equal to her at all. I can almost feel me look at the floor. But what moves me into a more extreme feeling of what I guess might be “sub space” is if a woman makes me talk about the issue. Whether she is strict or just coercive in a feminine way – it is basically if she becomes “extreme” in making me open up and be honest about not just being tiny but she makes me explore out loud instances of shame – particularly if she makes me detail it in the extreme – where were you? what did the girl say? how did you know she thought you were small? were you not honest with her about it? did you try to hide it? on and on – if she really forces me to answer and admit.