Denial or Orgasm: The Bittersweet choice
When you have been chaste, denied, or in chastity for many months, or even a year, knowing you are allowed to finally have that orgasm, that release can bring up a mix of emotions. For some who have been in chastity or simply denied, it may be even difficult to accept that an orgasm will happen.
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Here Are Some Bittersweet Reasons
1. Denial is too good. If you have been on an edging program with a sexy cocktease, the pleasure of being on the edge for hours without cumming has likely taught you that an orgasm is quick and done, but you can extend so much pleasure just by stroking and edging without cumming.
2. Orgasms change the chemicals in the brain. Maybe you have learned to truly enjoy the mix of pleasure and ache. Denial can really make you feel alive and sexy! An orgasm is great, but you know it would take a while to get back to the delicious feelings of denied aching. You may very well need a more extreme cocktease program to get you back to where you started.
3. Fear of dynamic changing. We all know that after an orgasm, brain chemicals change. You may feel less submissive for a while, and that may be an uncomfortable space for you to be in. While you love the pleasure of an
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orgasm, it might not be worth the next few day’s headspace.
To Orgasm or Not
Those and many other reasons may be why you ask Mistress to tease and deny you for just a little bit more; to not let you cum so you can continue to feel submissive and in that wonderful space of denial and edging.
Have you ever faced this choice? Always Beg for Mistress Delia, and tell me about how you were able to choose.
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My vote is tease and denial.
Mistress,i’ve had a conditionall since i was younger that makes it very difficult to have an orgasm.It takes me hours to get to the release point. And no guarantee of one then either.i have been edging and teasing for years and i can tell You after 35 years of doing this that the feeling of being on edge and loaded full but not being able to release is the way i enjoy to live. The change You spoke of after orgasm is real and it takes me a couple days to get back to that enjoyable feeling i have come to need i guess.Thank You for a good blog post.i always seem to enjoy Yours rather well.
🙂 You are welcome, tracy
Ms Delia knows too much about the space in our heads…
No wonder she has so much control.
OH, Mistress, You have brought me exactly where i am not sure anymore. Do i want an orgasm or do i wish to be denied… the more i am kept in chastity, edged and teased and the more i am physically craving for the ultimate release while i am fully nourished, in my capacity as Your submissive by the complete control You have over that issue… i do not even want to wish for an orgasm anymore… all that i want is for You to be pleased and pleasured by having full ownership and control over the destiny of Your property… knowing that my obedience and my behaviour brings happiness into Your Mistress’ heart… i am PROUD to say that i have now been 110 days without an orgasm… Thank You, Mistress…
I was JUST having this conversation with a sub, Miss Delia. He has been (self) locked and chaste for quite awhile and has been kicking around the idea of whether to cum or not to cum. After talking about it for a bit, he actually said that having an orgasm would make him uneasy and he would rather just stay chaste. I was proud to hear him say that. Great blog, Miss Delia.
That is wonderful, My e!! I know it can be hard to decide whether to cum or not! I love the predicament!