Finding Subspace:You Have To Find Your Own Way

Subspace is defined very well by Urban Dictionary (believe that or not) as:

…That very special place the submissive enters when he/she totally trusts his/her Dominant, and totally immerses in an intense scene. The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point.

It is the responsibility of the Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, as he/she has trusted him to do. It is also the Dominant’s responsibility after the scene to help the sub to return to “vanilla space” after the scene. This entails providing both physical and emotional assurance to the sub, until he/she regains his/her sense of self, and is known as, “aftercare”.

But the question I am asked often is, how can I actually get into subspace?

Finding Subspace

victorias secret - CopyFor some of you, it’s easy.  You feel that collar slip around your neck, or that cage snap shut around your cock, and you are there.  For others, it takes more.  Maybe a spanking that starts out gentle and progressively becomes more intense, or a teasing session with edges that go one forever.  It may not even be physical.  It could be just listening to your Femdom and being told you’re a slut…a bitch…her whore is enough to get you into subspace.

Subspace Requires Trust

Submissives in subspace are very vulnerable.  Yes, we make you get naked for us, and that makes you vulnerable and exposed, but this exposes not only your body, but your mind and your heart as well.  And to do that, you really need to have trust in your Domme.  If you’re worried about if she’s going to hurt you or push you past your limits, that won’t be able to allow you to slip down into the subspace abyss.  I take great responsibility with you and consider it an honor when you slip into submission with me.  And once you’re there?  Oh, home may be much more pleasant, but you still love being in in that sexy space, don’t you?

Beg for subspace with Mistress Delia!