Pain Can Be Sexy – And you don’t even have to love it.
For sadists and masochists, it’s all about getting their needs met. But not everyone is a pain slut. When I play with a pain slut, I get to exercise the part of me that gets off on having complete and total control of a submissive. I can provide them pain…or I can provide them pleasure – sometimes both. I control their sensations and what they experience.
When playing with someone who likes spanking or erotic CBT, or lighter sensations, the sensations are much lighter and pleasure is increased.
Why Like Pain?
For the masochistic sub?…well, it can be the knowledge that they are making me happy, that they’re taking what I’m dishing out – a caning, CBT, a furious ass fucking – because I’ve asked them to. It could also be that they’re just wired differently, and they derive pleasure from intense feelings that they can’t get anywhere else. Giving and taking the pain and the pleasure is what sexual sadomasochism is all about.
There is a fine line between pleasure and pain as the saying goes, and that line can blur during a session.
Painful Punishment
Within the BDSM scene, there’s the idea that punishment has to consist of something painful. Well, do you really think that works for the pain slut? If the one enjoys pain, and I cane their ass until its red and burning, they love it! That’s only going to get them off.
But if you are a sensual submissive, being in time out or given a task you do not enjoy is better punishment. So is knowing you have displeased Mistress.
Do know that a GOOD Mistress has to know other ways to punish, both for those of her subs who really aren’t into pain at all, and for those who are. It may not be physically painful, but imagine the mental anguish if you displease me and I just…ignore you…..
And remember, when you Beg for Mistress Delia, I can be so sexy and sensual as well!
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As always Empress Delia, fascinating insight from a wide variety of perspectives drawn from Your vast experience. For it, ceding that “complete and total control” is where the real pleasure is, with or without pain. Having no say in anything and everything, putting it completely in Your hands is bliss, while hoping Mistress is finding the joy and satisfaction She desires from the session.
And yes, as far as punishment goes, for it, and it is certain many if not most subs, being ignored by a Mistress is the worst fate possible. ANY attention, even the tiniest morsel, is embraced and savored as the tremendous gift that it is, where we can and do, as You so correctly put it “derive pleasure from intense feelings [we] can’t get anywhere else.”
LOVE the cat suit with the whip look too! Mmmmmmmmmmm……………
Yes! I know so many pain sluts who will be bratty thinking I will punish them with pain. HA! The (not-so-funny) joke is on them. I will express my extreme disappointment and then isolate them from any attention for as long as I think they need.
Oh, no… we Mistresses are wise to their devious plans… and have our own.
I really loved this post… speaks well about the nuances of pain play. Love them very much! Thank you for this really nice post.
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That new pic makes me want to submit over and over and over again…
Blur the lines with me Mistress Delia…
the grayer…the better…
Other than visiting a mistress for pay I think I have only been physically punished/hurt by a female once or twice in my life. On one occasion a date (it was the second date with her) fairly matter of factly said “I am going to hurt you a bit tonight”. I was taken a back. Caught totally off guard but also a bit confused and frozen. I literally did not know how serious to take her but something in the calm way she said it made it feel serious. I did not know what to expect. She did hurt me some that night and some hurting me became a part of our connection. It was a power she had and enjoyed and it made me feel bound to her in ways I cannot explain. I felt like it was her right or something.
It is true Mistress, You definitely do know how to use both pain, and pleasure to ensure both sides of the coin can enjoy their relative “spaces.” And i do believe You know just how to control Your subbies using proportional punishments meted out most effectively.
Mistress Delia:
Please, please, please no pain for this sensual sissy cock slut. I detest pain but not having what I crave so desperately, “COCK”, is worse than any physical discomfort I can think of. As you are well aware this sissy love to help others relieve their stress and aching muscles.
Jizzelle
Maybe 50 Shades?
Happy to blur the lines with you!
You are so welcome, Ms. Daphne!!
Pain is an interesting thing, physical or emotional.
Ms Delia- I wonder if people who enjoy receiving pain are chemically wired somewhat similarly to what we call “adrenaline junkies”? I’m going to have to do some research on that, but off the top of my head it makes sense. There is an old study in Science Daily(.com!) that says that dopamine may be at play. Researchers used fancy machinery that showed “that the brain’s dopamine system is highly active while someone experiences pain — and that this response varies between individuals in a way that relates directly to how the pain makes them feel.”
Interesting stuff…and very fun to be a part of!
Ms. Stephanie,
I think that makes a lot of sense, and psychologically pleasure and pain can get mixed…and that could be why many seek it out as an erotic outlet!
🙂
No pain for Jizzelle!! This is so noted already 🙂
Thank you, kneelcc!
Pain can be pleasure, and many find pleasure from pain…and I do love mixing between both those feelings with you. 🙂
I understand that, mike, and have said similar things to others.
I agree that the calm demeanor can be unsettling! With pain there truly can be a great bond/connection.
Thanks for the comment 🙂
Being ignored is the perfect punishment for slaves who like pain or spankings, etc.
Being ignored as punishment hurts!! 🙂
Thanks for your comment!
I think you can sort of need the pain. It is a way you can feel connected and it can have a feeling of familiarity and safety. Even if it truly hurts. I don’t always get it but if a woman is calmly sadistic it makes me need her very intensely.
I agree, mike.
That familiarity and safety are powerful connection pieces. I agree about the intensity!
🙂
I love this Blog Mistress Delia. Pain so enhances the pleasure to a point that it becomes a need. You know this so well Mistress.
Pain can definitely be sexy, Miss Delia. Anything that gets your heart pounding can grow to be addictive, whether it’s the thrill of placing a winning bet, a death-defying ride at an amusement park or the sting/throb of wincing at pain at the hands of a beautiful Mistress. Pleasure torment for sure! It makes you feel alive.
This is another great post Ms Delia. I like that you enlighten all those little pain sluts that we are wise to their antics and that misbehaving to receive a punishment of spanking or something of the like won’t work with a seasoned Mistress. Better yet they get absolutely the opposite…no attention at all.