The Makings of a Worthwhile Domination Session
As with any relationship, one based on dominance and submission requires that certain efforts be invested in order to enhance the development, maintenance, and success of the relationship.
That said, the domination and submission endeavor must be seen as a two-way street in order to have purpose and reach its potential. In the desire to promote a mutually gratifying experience, both participants must contribute to the cultivation of the dynamic.
This means that you, the submissive, are as responsible for the path your submission takes as much as your femdom is…
Communicating With Your Mistress
I strive -as I know does the exceptional Ms. Delia- to be a Dominant who truly listens and attempts to understand you and what each domination undertaking should entail on my part. To that end, I have always found that the one defining component that can make or break an attempt to engage in a successful D/s scenario and dynamic is communication from the submissive.
An open, honest, and frank line of dialogue prevents a generic and arbitrary expression of “domination” and accomplishes the following, among other things:
- I learn who you are uniquely as a submissive, as not all submissives are alike. It helps lay a solid foundation on which to build the relationship.
- It educates me on those triggers and the aspect(s) of “submission” that take you into your deepest subspace and increases the chances that she can take you there.
- I am able to be fully aware of your boundaries and any component that can undermine your submissive experience.
- Each scene can effectively tailored by your Mistress to fit you specifically, like a custom-made glove.
Always keep in mind that sharing and being expressive is part of being a submissive!
Sharing Your Submission
I not only want you to share your submissive feelings, needs, desires, and “visions,” but I expect it, whether that is before your first or fiftieth session, in the middle of a scene or as a follow-up. As long as you are respectful and do not intend your sharing to be a veiled attempt at topping from the bottom, putting your submissive cards on the table is something I consider a gift. You want me to know who you are so that we can both benefit from our scene of domination and submission.
After all, if I cannot curl your toes and take you to a submissive Nirvana, I will feel no real satisfaction from anything I do to or with you. While there is the obvious power differential, there is a novel form of teamwork involved in order to achieve a quality session.
If we are both on the same page, reached only through open, candid, two-way lines of communication, then we increase our odds of making a connection and building a satisfying and lasting D/s relationship!
A huge thanks to Ms. Delia for “inviting me over”. It has been both an honor and a privilege!
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i totally agree and that’s one of the best things about having ongoing communication / sessions with the Mistress’s of LDW. I have spoken to almost all of them and even though i haven’t clicked with all of them. i can truly say that they all have been understanding and will let you know if they aren’t into your kink without making it uncomfortable for you.
Communication is Key, isn’t it, connie!!
You are a Mistress whore… and I think sharing you with others is so much fun! I love getting in your head, and fucking you up too! 🙂
This post is spot on. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. If there’s no communication there really IS no relationship. While this blog post is about communication in the sexual and kinky sphere it applies to all of life: people who communicate, manage expectations, clean up mistakes, set boundaries, etc are the ones that avoid all the stupidity that comes with miscommunication or missed communication.
Great post Mistress Emma Jane! Thank You for sharing. Serving Empress Delia and Mistress Olivia (Love both Your comments too! So well said!) has been greatly enhanced through open, honest communication.