Submissive Positive: Submissives Need Encouragement Too
One of the negative things I see in the BDSM and fetish scene is how submissives, slaves, pets, bottoms – whatever label you want to use – seem to have this belief that they’re supposed to be treated badly, or told constantly how 
pathetic and worthless they are. Let me ask you something – is your Mistress’ time valuable? Do you think she would waste it on you if you were truly pathetic, worthless, valueless? Of course she wouldn’t! So, while that can all be part of a very hot humiliation scene, I want to spend the next few weeks making my Monday posts all about “Submissive Positive Mondays, and making you know that you do have value.
You Are A Good Submissive
This is something I say to my personal submissives all the time…and yes, I do have some female submissives! – as well as Jack and some very special, personal male subs. Those of you who have called and done sessions with me also know that when you have pleased your Mistress, you’ll also hear me tell you how well you have done, and how much I enjoyed myself!
I’m Proud Of You as My Submissive
As a Femdom, I love to expand limits. When you’ve allowed me to push you just a bit out of your comfort zone, I want you to know how that makes me feel. There’s a lot of pride, and I’m proud of you, when you trust in me to spank you just a bit harder than normal…or to give you a sissy shopping assignment and have you report back to me how you carried it out and just how it made you feel…or when you tell me all about your first visit to a gloryhole and your first experience sucking cock! Knowing that you are willing to do things because you trust that I know what’s good for you and that I’ll make it as safe as I can from my end of the phone makes me proud of your submission.
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Excellent post, as always Empress Delia. Very thought provoking. While it enjoys being a ‘can never do anything right or satisfactorily’ slave, pleasing You, and knowing that it has, does give it some measure of pride, having been of value. Still, accepting it has value to You can be a challenge. Love this line:
” is your Mistress’ time valuable? Do you think she would waste it on you if you were truly pathetic, worthless, valueless? Of course she wouldn’t!”
Thank You for this. it looks forward to the continuing series posts.
Thank you Ms Delia, for this blog post. Thank you very much.
You are welcome! Glad you like the post 🙂
Thank you, it!
Well done Mistress! i know when we met i had some very stereotypical views on BD/sM along the movie caste You refer to. Thank You for teaching me so much about what a real 24/7 Lifestyle is about. As Your “collared one”, i can not express the degree of mutual trust, respect, and adoration i sense we share, and the honor that title brings to me.
Thank You for teaching me that a good sub is able to share his thoughts as a equal during negotiations for any scene/scenario we share in the dungeon. But i also appreciate that we do not spend all our time in the dungeon any more, and we have developed a wonderful bond as that between two sides of the same coin: You the heads and i the tails. i, like it above, truly treasure when You tell me i have pleased You. i am most proud though that our mutual energy has transcended stereotypes and evolved into something truly rare and wonderful. Thank You for being You and such a kind and nurturing Owner.