An Essay About Submissives
Submissives Are Not Doormats
Submissives are human beings who are free to do whatever they wish. Despite what porn will tell you, that submissives are weak-willed individuals who can just be walked over (though trampling does have its place) and will do whatever a Dominant tells them to, that’s just not true. A sub who has never once thought about sucking cock is not just going to start because I demand it! They have limits, and if they’ve communicated them, it’s the Domme’s job to adhere to those.
They Choose To Kneel
That’s right, they choose to be submissive. My subs ask – some beg! – me to take control of their cocks. To give them guided masturbation instructions, to dress them in pretty panty and bra sets. They tell me how they want to be teased, that they may feel a ruined orgasm is all they deserve – if they deserve to be allowed to cum at all.
Submission Is A Gift
It’s quite the cliché, isn’t it? “Submission is a gift.” Whether it’s a cliché or not, doesn’t make it less true. I want all my subs, stroke -a-holics, sissies, chastity slaves, whatever bent you are to know that. I love that you’ve chosen me to take you on this kinky journey. And my gift, in return, is that I will control you. I will use my wicked, evil imagination to craft the kinkiest, most erotic phone sex session I can. Oh, and I will obey (thought you’d never see that word coming from me!) your limits. I might push them – and we’ll have fun when I do – but I’ll always keep them in mind.
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Well said Mistress. i know You well enough after five years to testify to others that everything You share here is truth.
i am a sexual submissive by nature and yearn to please my FemDom. i also know how important it is to find the optimal partner to dance with on this incredible journey through kink we have shared thus far and am perpetually excited to enjoy the many vistas along the way we will explore in the future.
i would be remiss to not say “Thank You” for accepting my gift as an act of extreme trust, respect, affection, and commitment, and responding in kind as my partner, friend, and Mistress.
i remember a blog You wrote several years ago on the topic of submission as a gift that took a different take on this concept. i am honored to think i may have influenced this paradigm shift and accepting my offered gift so completely.
i know there are many others out there searching for what i have found wit You and hope some read this and make that first call which will lead to the wonderfully kinky bond we share.
Thanks for providing a public forum here for me to share the joy i have found wearing Your collar.
So well said, kneelcc!!
Yes, Both submission and dominance are gifts when given freely. I am not sure about my shift. I still feel both ways sometimes, but certainly you are a gift!!
🙂 Mistress
Ms. Delia, you make such a good point. All of our callers do make a choice about what they like. It is important for us to adhere to certain limits that are set by our subs. Honestly, if the boundaries for both parties are not respected, the fun is over!
I am your submissive cream puff girl who wanted you and Ms Olivia to dress/turn and keep me as a girl and by asking both of you did just that and now there’s no going back for me now. With how Ms Olivia cuddled against me when infirsdtvasjed and sat on my lap and gave me lipstick kisses on my cheeks where her lipstick marks stayed permently on my cheeks then both of you taking me shopping for matching bra/panty set with slip then changing my body into a petite/smooth:soft body with wonrns butt/girlish curves and d cup breasts. Then giving my face a total makeover while you say on my lap giving me lipstick kisses on my cheeks. With both of you having me look in mirror with long wig you glued on to my head I am your cream puff girl forever.
Well that was a blog i started to peruse on a lark… but the more i read, the more it wiggled its way into me ol noggin.
simple and basic, but yet deep and thoughtful. It reminded me of the conversations i had regarding “sub” tendencies etc…” with Milady Gemma, and Milady Alexandria.
Thanks for writing this Milady Delia…
Sincerely,
Aaron “bookie wookie” Jacobsen
Dear Mistress,
Thank You for this essay… 🙂
i agree with what You say and if i can add, i would say that to me it is a two way street…
The GIFT of submission levels with the GIFT of Dominance… as both ends of the equation contribute to it and benefit from it… in a context where chemistry works… then MAGIC can happen and for a submissive the GIFT is no longer to surrender but to be OWNED…
Thank You for Your GIFT, Mistress…
i am Your devoted slave
Delia’s e
I absolutely agree Ms Delia. We’ve talked about this during our kinky play time together. It’s really no fun to take power from someone who has no power. It might seem counterintuitive to say that I want a submissive who has power … after all, the purpose of power exchange is to relinquish power to Mistress — of course, that automatically assumes that the sub has some sort of power.
Very nicely said, My e!!