Chastity Rules Shouldn’t Come From The Internet
The internet has certainly made BDSM and things like chastity play more accessible. No longer do you have to check out advice columns in sketchy magazines you picked up from the Adult Bookstore, or just rely on luckily finding a cocktease who shares your kink. With that increase in information can come some folks who think their way is the only way. Recently, I came across this post by a key holding wife that laid out the rules for chastity. Some are good, some I just can’t agree with.
Orgasm Denial
Her first rule was that denial of orgasm should be used as punishment, fulfillment of orgasm as a reward. Well, I think orgasm denial can be used as just standard practice – Jack never gets to cum without being edged and denied for a good long while – just as much as it can be used for punishment. And really, if you’re in chastity is denial really a punishment? You’re serving me, showing your devotion, and pleasing your Mistress by keeping that cum in your balls. Oh, but don’t think orgasm can’t be used as a punishment. Ever been coerced to orgasm after orgasm, with lots of post orgasm torment in between? Tell me that isn’t worse than being denied!
Masturbation
The second rule I can’t really disagree with. The husband should never under any circumstances masturbate unless instructed to do so by his Wife. There’s really no argument here. You’ve given me control of your cock, so I get to decide when it’s played with, teased and tormented. I’m enforcing that by locking it up in a chastity cage. How, exactly, are you going to masturbate with a cage on?
There are a few more rules, so check back in the next post.
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Slaves should not masturbate without permission.
They should suck dock on command .!!
I am a SLAVE to mistress Delia and I suck whatever she puts in front of me .another punishment : don’t hug your puppies!
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I couldn’t agree more Mistress.
Chastity is a journey and it’s best to be on that journey with someone you trust. Thank you for locking my cock and being my key holder.
Hello Delia,
Everyone has their own ideas of what a fetish should be like and I can’t say anyone’s particular idea is wrong, but on this I agree with you 100%. I do not think chastity should be a punishment. For punishment, I like short consequences – but not necessarily immediate, and for me to some degree it has to do with dignity and my own psychological feelings of not being worthy that I do not know how to break.
Punishment is a penalty for not meeting expectations, for not being worthy. With a long term punishment though, that isn’t really an option, or rather it doesn’t feel like one, and the impact of knowing you were not worthy is much longer.
For some people that may be fine but for people who already have self worth issues I am not sure it is a good idea.
On the other hand when chastity is about ownership of the cock and sexual expression it is a vastly different scenario.
I am worthy to belong to her, if she didn’t find me worthy I would not be hers. I may mess up sometimes and need a spank but overall I am still worthy to belong to her and that is something that is very uplifting.
Anyway – I do not want to suggest my reasoning applies to everyone, or even that everyone who agrees with you does so for the same reason, but I wanted to express why I agreed with you.
Alice
Very interesting perspective, Alice! I do think others sure will agree.
I hope you enjoy the next parts!!
Ms. Delia
Happy to keep you locked, Andy! VERY happy!
Ms. Delia
With you & Ms Erika locking me in chastity both of you have complete control of my cock and orgasms. There’s no way I can masturbate while Im locked up????. What’s even more difficult is both of you and the other mistresses keeping me dressed as your cream puff girl giving me lipstick kisses on my cheeks which gets me hard but reminds me I can’t off as you have me in chastity.
YES YES YES !!! If chastity is ONLY for punishment then it takes the “guessing” away … and let’s face it, it’s FUN not knowing exactly what will happen. ((I know YOU know what will happen but you don’t tell him.)) — There’s a reason why tease and denial has the tease part in it. LOL