Did you check out Part 1 and 2?  You want to be sure you’ve got all ten rules down!

Mind-Fucking You

I left off Part 2 talking about pain and impact play.  I wrote about how, unless you’re a pain slut, pain isn’t going to enough to satisfy you.  That’s why psychological Dominance – mind-fucking – is so important.  If I can find out what buttons to push in your horny brain, the less pain I need to inflict to control and satisfy your submissive cravings.  Does calling you a slut or whore, or talking about seeing you suck my Bull’s cock make your dick harder and drip more pre-cum?  Does just describing how I’m going to humiliate you with a strap-on get you to re-double your efforts to please your Mistress?  The mind can be more powerful than any flogger!

Punishment

Punishment is never anything you’re going to enjoy.  One other thing I wrote about in Part 2 was how submissives will always test limits, and it’s up to the Mistress to be firm and consistent in applying discipline and when needed, punishment.  A good Mistress understands the balance between the intensity of punishment and the duration.  If your punishment is going to be intense – such as a caning – then it won’t last as long as a less intense punishment – such as being made to stand in a corner and being ignored.

Submission Increases With Time

As long as I maintain firm control, the longer a session lasts, the more sessions we have together,  the more thoroughly submissive and under my control you will become.  The more we play together, the more I can determine just what training you need, and the more you’ll begin to depend on me to give you the feeling of submission you crave.

Our Pleasure Is Linked

Many people think that D/s is all about what the Dominant partner wants – but it’s just as much about giving the submissive partner what they need.  I have callers ask me what gets me excited during a call, since, while we may fantasize about things, we can’t actually do them in reality.  It’s all about having that control over you, that’s what gets me aroused.  I may not be spanking you or stroking you, but you’re doing it under my direction and just how I tell you, and that’s the power exchange that keeps me going.  So the pleasure we both get from a call is linked.