How Can I Get Her To Dominate Me
I have so many callers who ask me that. They want their wife or their girlfriend to dominate them, to become a housewife by day, and a Mistress by night. Well, you probably didn’t know this, but inside every woman is a Domme just waiting to be awakened and worshipped. You just need to know how to approach it and how to introduce it to them.
How You Want Her To Dominate You
I know, what you want is to have her just walk into the room, look at you and say “Get your clothes off and get on the bed. My Inner Femdom is awake and she wants to be worshipped! I’ll sit on your face and you’ll lick my pussy and clit just like I want. Until I’m so exhausted I can’t stand even one more orgasm!” Then have her look at you, smirk and say “I knew that tiny cock wasn’t tenting out your pants all on its own. Is that a cock cage! Good, one less thing we must deal with. Really thrill me, and maybe I’ll unlock it and ruin your orgasm!” Is that going to happen? Probably not.
You Have To Awaken Her Inner Domme
This is going to take some work on your part. Start off by telling her you want her in control during vanilla sex. Tell her you want her to do things like let you know how she wants to be fingered, licked or fucked. Tell her it’s okay to tease you (explain to her what edging is), and that you want her to control your orgasm until she’s satisfied and ready for it. Make it all about her, and before long, she’ll want complete control of you, your cock and your orgasms!
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Ms. Delia,
Yes, yes, yes! Helping your partner find her inner Domme can be a challenge, and take time, but can be so so worth it in the end. (His *rear* end!)
I suggest the male partner do things like always be the one to open the door, let her order his food, let her pick the restaurants, walk to the bar to get her a fresh glass of water… go out of his way to tend to her needs. Treat her like a lady and she will find those places she loves to control him… even if it is just saying, “Honey, I want an ice cream cone, please go get me one.”
Even that can be extremely sexually arousing.
Totally agree!!! There’s nothing better then being in female lead relationship, this has happened to me with my masseuse as she gave me 5 of her old bras/her old dresses once she loses weight/using perfumes and lotions on my massages and cheeks to keep me smelling girlish all the time along with controlling what I spend so I can do massages 3xweek for 2 hours and monthly waxings.
I feel like this stuff can be pretty complex. I have (my whole life) been drawn to dominant females. I have always known that. But I did not really think of myself as a true submissive until I had a few women speak to me a certain way. It is hard to explain this. Basically it is when they speak to me as if I do not matter or as though I have no decision in things. If I am just told what to do – given a directive it seems to connect with me very (very, very) deeply. It is weird. If the female asks me what I want to do or considers me it is different. But if she just totally takes over – I don’t know it does something to my mind. It is very powerful. I had a girlfriend who was annoyed with me once just tell me to go stand in the corner. It was unexpected and she had never done that before. But the way she said it was like she expected me to comply. I have never been able to explain this. I have run into it before in different places and circumstances. When a female speaks to me like that it is not just that I “want” to comply. It feels like I “need to”. Like I have no choice. I stood in that corner for her and it was not the last time she made me do it. The thing that is odd is that while it is embarrassing and demeaning it is also “comfortable” in some odd kind of way. It is like – okay, it’s horrible but at the same time it feels “right”.