4 types of spanking
I love the spanking fetish. There are many different kinds of spankings though. I do like all the different types of spankings, and how they suit different moods and emotions.
Playful Spanking
Playful spankings occur with laughing and/or light topics of conversation. This is the style most often seen at open parties because the mood is light and it invites others to take part, sometimes using “spanking games.” This type of spanking is a great way to connect and slowly slip into the role of Mistress and submissive. The best part of a good spanking is happening in your head but you’re not going to get there without a good partner!
Punishment Spanking
Punishment spankings can easily be misunderstood. Intensely personal, they usually revolve around an offense that requires forgiveness. I would never ever do this in public, its much too personal and can leave both of us emotionally raw.
I use a repetitive stroke which can get quite painful, but I never want the pain to be the main focus. A hand, hairbrush or paddle might be used but always with total control.
“You know what’s going to happen and you know why. We have talked about this before, and you chose not to follow my instructions. Now, bring me the hairbrush and get over my knee.” This type of spanking may include spanking implements.
To really do this well and connect on many levels you really need to be able to verbally and mentally get under their skin and into their head and heart. Making your submissive feel humbled and forgiven at the same time is a true art.
I always end with a reconnecting nurturing time together. We both need the reassurance that what happened affected us both and was done with love.
Sensual Spanking
Sensual spankings involve all the senses. The feeling of a warm lap, the embarrassment of having your bottom high in the air. Touch is the primary focus, firm hands putting you in place over pillows, over a couch, or over a knee. Cool hands soothe stroke your skin before the smacks. My hands and fingernails will stroke and scratch, maybe your thighs or along your spine, making lazy circles on your ass cheeks.
A sensual spanking should be like a kicked up massage, especially if we use toys!
Erotic Spanking
Erotic spankings have more touching and stroking in between slaps. You know I’m going to be stroking your cock and balls between slaps, maybe even giving them a bit of a spanking too! You know this turns me on and you’ll feel the erotic connection each time my hand connects.
The difference between an erotic spanking and a sensual spanking is that the erotic spanking focuses on sexuality while the sensuous spanking is more about the feelings on your skin.
Do you enjoy a spanking fetish? Do you love being spanked? What is your favorite kind of spanking? Let Ms. Delia know!
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Personally I prefer “punishment spankings” as you would imagine of me. The Governess has long been one of my favorite forms of corporal discipline. I hop on spanking posts and this is one of the best ones I have read. Thanks, Ms D.
This is a great blog post about spanking. I love when you do your BDsm tutorials because I think that’s where being a Lifestyle Mistress and being active in the face to face fetish world really helps the caller. You know I don’t say, “real world” because I’ve been with you as you’re giving a spanking (various kinds) and the emotions, the intensity and the sub space are very real in Distance Domination the way you do it.
Ms Delia ~ I’ll admit, I like spankings ~ giving and receiving. I will say playful ones are fun and always lead to more fun. I think I like sensual ones best. Although, I do love when a sub endures punishment spankings to prove how sore they are for their misdeeds.
Ms Kay Marie