Small Penis Acceptance
From time to time, I write about small penis humiliation. About how disappointed women are when they realize a guy is hung like a hummingbird, how humiliating it must be for those of you with small penises to have a sexual encounter. Just the other day though, I got an email from one of you – who wishes to remain anonymous – about small penis acceptance, and I will say I want to help some achieve this! Yes, these ARE the things I lay around and ponder!
Step 1: Learning You Have A Small Penis
I think to “accept” that you have a small penis you first need to learn that you are small. You do not automatically somehow know what is “big”, “average”, “small” or “tiny”. In fact I have long thought females knew more about this because they are more likely to see and evaluate size than males are. I think they see more “up close” and in a way are more expert on what size is all about.
Well, of course, we are! You might only see cock in porn, and who knows what angle they’re shooting from. We ladies get to see dicks of all shapes, lengths and widths!
There is actually something called the “5 stages of grief”. I actually think of this in terms of acceptance. Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and – acceptance. This construct makes sense to me.
At first, you just do not really believe it is true. You think you have it “wrong” and that somehow you are misperceiving your size. It really does not make sense but that is what you think. You think “maybe I am average”. You measure. You measure again. You wonder if you will grow more. You begin to notice other guys – mostly in the locker room. They look big. Some look really, really big. You full-on cannot deny that you are not big but you try to think you might be average. Basically this evolution continues and it becomes harder and harder to deny. You begin to realize you are, in fact, small and you begin to wonder if you are actually “small” or would a girl feel you were “tiny”? You cannot know this.
Right here, let Ms. Delia tell you. If you think you’re small, you’re small. I can save you a lot of time and you could just jump to acceptance!
Step 2: Bargaining and Frustration
Then comes a “bargaining stage”. You try to think – girls don’t really care. Girls don’t really think about size – only you do.
Oh, no, we care. Have you ever heard a woman say “Oh, size doesn’t matter?” No! You know who says that? Guys with pindicks, that’s who!
This is another definite “stage”. You begin to “overhear” girls talk about well sized, or well endowed or well hung guys. When you overhear one or two conversations you can sort of still say “most girls don’t care” or something like that. Or “they are just kidding”. But over time you cannot deny it. You actually learn and know girls think about size and evaluate guys. It takes a while but overtime you simply learn this to be the truth.
Then comes anger/frustration. It is sort of a “victim – why me” kind of thing. How come there are all these big guys and you are not even average. It seems unfair. Really unfair. You sort of go back and forth but stay frustrated and sort of sink into despair. This lasts a while. It is not totally horrible it is just where you are. You wonder is there “anything to do” but you really know there is nothing and that is part of the despair – no way out.
Au contraire, there is a way out…and I think our anonymous pindick is about to tell you what it is….
Step 3: Acceptance
This brings you to acceptance. In the beginning, acceptance is not really imaginable. It is like thinking about visiting Mars or something. It cannot even be imagined. But you sort of begin to experiment or try to figure it out. I don’t know if this is true for all but it makes you feel VERY submissive when females mention size. Very. You sort of need to please females. You do not realize how really necessary this is. You begin to realize that pleasing females is almost a biological or psychological need. You NEED to please them and it sinks into you that you cannot totally please them. I think this cuts into the core of feeling submissive. You feel more comfortable giving oral sex than attempting intercourse. You just feel more “right” there. You feel an odd need to do things for females and it feels tied in to your small size. It is hard to articulate or understand. You offer to do chores and errands. Really – you become willing to do anything. You don’t really discuss this with anyone because you do not understand it yourself and you think people would not understand (unless they were in your predicament – but how would you even bring it up?). You quietly do things to “compensate” females. You hope they just think you are “nice” but inside yourself you know. You are attempting to qualify for desperately needed attention.
It’s a good thing that Femdoms here at Enchantrix Empire are available for whenever you have to talk about your inadequacies. Yes, we may tease you about your small package, but we also deeply understand your need to please your mistress to get that desperately desired attention.
Accept Your Small Penis
At around this time, things shift for you. You no longer hope to be a “big” or “average” guy. You begin to truly think of yourself as a “little dicked guy”. Like a sort of identity. When you overhear a girl talk about some guy they know who is a “typical little dicked man” or you hear a girl say that some guy “must have a tiny one” – you wash over with deep shame. But you are more accepting that – that is in fact you. You sort of want the girl to know that you are small/tiny. You also DON’T want her to know. It is this weird thing like you feel split down the middle. You want her to tell you “she knows” and you also want to “keep the secret”. Once a girl has the secret it feels like you “belong” to her. Like she can make you do things. It is not lost on you that if you got on her bad side she could “tell her friend(s)”. You can accept that you feel deep shame with her but if she brought in other females – oh my lord. So you act as nice as you possibly can. You want to stay in her good graces. You feel very submissive – not just in your mind but physically. In your being. Some girls do not understand the true power they have. It is hard to understand it yourself.
A bit of a disagreement here. I don’t think anyone should be ashamed he has a tiny penis. Humilaited? Sure, but ashamed? No. You just didn’t win the cock lottery. While you may never please a woman with your micropenis – that’s why pindicks make great cuckolds – as a submissive, you can learn how to use your mouth and fingers. And believe me, we ALL understand the power we have!
I measured my penis and its 1-3’?????. I never thought this would happen to me but it has as you/Ms Olivia/Ms Erika/Ms Alyssa and Ms Daphne have put me in panties/bras/dresses/blouses/leggings/yoga pants/makeup/lipstick/heels and boots which on real life scale my friend has as well. When I’m dressed up as a girl my clitty does get hard and I have tent in my panties only to have all of you tell me to rub my clitty through my panties then use my vibe to cream them as stroking is no longer allowed. With this being done I’m no longer boyfriend material anymore as I’m real all of your submissive soft helpless weak and feminine cream puff girl forever.
Oh Paulina! We KNOW you have a clitty!
Happy you are accepting it with help from LDW Mistresses!
Ms. Delia
Thank you for this very well thought out post Ms Delia you give us a lot to consider. True , just because a guy does have a small penis, and some enjoy SPH, there is something to be said of acceptance and working those “other skills” and celebrating the fact you have a small penis “Because……..”
See you around the Empire!
I too have a micro mini one…. & I also know the 5 steps well….although i’d never really thought of it quite that way.
it is amazing how we tiny dick holders can fool ourselves into thinking we are at least average….While deep down knowing we aren’t capable of pleasing any woman with it .. i know all too well the feelings of humiliation and submissiveness that come with realization.
I do have to thank years of being cuckolded, years of both suffering and ‘now enjoying’ SPH….. and the firm help of the Mistresses at LDW, for gaining. accepting of my sissy pussy free, locked in Chastity place…
I now understand I don’t belong in a woman’s bed.. Instead, my place is worshipping and Serving women
Great post !
Ms Delia: Experiencing my prime in the “pre Internet/Social Media age”…(yes I’m old!) made my (sigh) below average endowment somewhat “less of an issue”… of course pun intended. Size was most certainly an issue but the platforms did not exist for the discussions that abound today. Porn? Discreetly screened from a Super 8 projector onto a bedsheet in the rec room with a volunteer guarding the door! With the wrinkles and floral patterns on the sheet you couldn’t be sure if the male star even had a penis let alone witness the size of it!
But time waits for no little man and eventually with the rapid growth (how did that little pun “slip in” there?) of technology educated us and we had to accept that women wouldn’t settle for less.
Acceptance came relatively easy since there’s little one can do about the situation but to embrace it and carry on.
Since I love to cross dress, my small p and panties were a match made in heaven. Throw in a plethora of understanding Mistresses willing to oblige my peccadilloes over the years, my shortcomings have not hindered my pursuit of happiness.
Life balances things out win some lose some. I may be sub 4 but on the other hand I still have a full head of hair in my early 60’s! Quite content my my ( not a lot!) in life!
Wow, this is very well written. Despite having generally accepted that I’m a little stubby beta bitch, I will never completely accept it. If I did then I wouldn’t be such a warped little humiliation addict.
But I love Women who can spot my beta nervousness and hit me with that knowing smirk that causes me to start blushing. Or do I? Doesn’t part of me hate it when it’s happening but love it when I get home and slip into a pair of my Hanes seamless pantyhose? Or my seamless Jockey panties (which make a great bikini bathing suit, by the way).
As my ex would say, “You say you want me to stop but you’ll be moaning about it when we’re back in the bedroom and you’re thanking me for humiliating you in public while you’re in your panties and humping my leg with your bald little femcock.”
There are so many feelings of conflict that have pent up over the years. And helplessness. But it never wins against the power of the many triggers that make me immediately self-conscious of the emptiness in my pants. Like the sound of a woman’s high heels clicking on a hard floor or the knowing glance of a Woman catching me look at her as I hear the sound of her nyloned legs swishing against each other,
That, of course, results in the trademark nervous smile of the under-endowed beta. One that has betrayed me so many times.
Have I accepted that I have a small penis? Yes
Am I well-adjusted? You tell me. I’m dressed like a sissy slut in my Hanes seamless pantyhose as I type this.
I agree, Ms. Erika!!
Other skills can make a small penis easier to handle!! Good thoughts.
Ms. Delia
Ohhh princess!!!
A micro penis!!! You are certainly NOT average, right???
And a cuckold too! Wow!
Ms. Delia
Oh davey,
I love this is so amazing!!! I am happy you have had such a good time at acceptance!
Ms. Delia
Ohhh pee wee you ARE such a true beta bitch!!!
How is your tiny femcock doing today? I bet you are in such wonderful headspace!!!! Hahaha!!! Small penis acceptance for pee wee!
Ms. Delia
A camera! OMG! You with a camera!!!!
I too have a tiny clitty & have accepted my fate wear panties and cross dressing lead to so much fun i didn’t lnow how to stop or why bothet ot is like total fun .i go to a nude resort & i watch the reaction from women who see it because i almost am nude.One time i brought a female friend up there and she said i was the bravest man she ever met.at the time i didn’t realize what she was talking about .Now i understand
Right? I love to capture those naughty images 🙂
Oh April!
Such great acceptance going on there!! Now that you understand your shortcomings, you should keep on having fun with panties!!!
Delia
I may be having too much fun in panties bra breast forms perfume & sex toys whigs etc .I have gone totally down the rabbit hole. Even sucked some big cocks on the beach made me feel even more feminine. Now I crave extreme SPH makes me even smaller
Ohhhh I would love for you to tell me all about that naughty adventure! Mmmm! Ms. Delia
Reading SPH blogs and hearing women comment on my tiny penis shrinks my clitty even smaller. I showed some women on the Internet photos of my clitty after they asked for it. Numerous women told me I belonged in chastity.Some other women encouraged shrinking. . Some even suggested removal.
I am a fan of chastity for a man with a small penis.
The Eunuch style flat chastity cage
is awesome. Not only does this device prevent any arousals it flattens and inverts penis and shrinkage also occurs to balls. Also wearing this while sucking cock feels
incredible my nipples get so hard and leak in my panties .
So this surely is your small penis acceptance!