Pain Play And Safewords

Ms. Delia says “I want you to use your safeword!”

Not All Submissives Like Pain

Ms. Delia can be a cruel and sadistic bitch. However, not all of my submissive are pain sluts.  Take Jack for instance, he’s not really into pain – he’s more of a sensation play sub.  He like being spanked, having me use a crop on him, some mild CBT.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.  We both know his limits.  Sometimes though, I want more.  Which is why I love it when a pain slut gives me a call and we get to play.

Pride Takes Over

The issue that I have sometimes is that my limits, what I want to do, may be much more than what you as a sub wants to do.  And that’s okay!  We can still have fun, as long as you don’t let pride get in the way.  Again, I’ll use Jack as an example.  He’s the type of submissive who wants to please me, his Mistress.  And sometimes, I might go a bit beyond his limits in getting what I want.  That’s not okay.  It’s okay to stretch limits, to find out where the edge of the envelope is, but not flagrantly go beyond them.  When Jack and I first got together, he would let me do anything.  Because he was prideful. He didn’t want me to think less of him, so he would not, under any circumstances, use his safeword.  He didn’t want me to be disappointed in him.

That’s What Safewords Are For

If you have a Domme who you’ve been playing with for a while, she likely knows you’re limits.  But when you’re starting out, she doesn’t.  Communication is key.  Yelling out your safeword when it’s too much isn’t disappointing – it COMMUNICATION!  If she’s caning you with all her strength, and it’s too much, she won’t know unless you say something.  Another reason for safewords – pushing your limits.  If I’m going to engage in limit pushing with my subs, I let them know right off the bat that that’s what we’re doing and I EXPECT them to safeword.  I think that takes some of the pride out of it, when they know that’s exactly what I’m looking for.

So, remember, no Mistress is going to be proud of you if you let her damage her toy!  That would be you, slut….  ;P