Aftercare for Submissives
Aftercare for Submissives MUST Happen After You’ve Been Dominated
Last month, I wrote about making a sub drop kit. Now sometimes, sub drop is inevitable. It was a really intense scene, or it brings up some emotions you need to process. I have found however, that with good aftercare, if sub drop can’t be eliminated, we can lessen it. So, here are some good activities for aftercare that you can share with your Mistress.
Aftercare Ideas
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Wrapping a warm blanket around you, when body temperature drops. In my experience, this is the number one thing you can do. Even here in the South, where a cold day in January means the mercury is hovering around 50, I find that my submissives really get cold. Of course that’s because they’re naked! Meanwhile, I’m sweating in my leather outfit!
Touch is also important. After a really intense scene with Jack, I often wrap him in a nice warm blanket. I hold him and cuddle him. Sometimes I’m quiet, other times I whisper in his ear just how proud he made me, or what a good sub he was for me.
Hydration is good! Bringing you a glass of water to rehydrate your body, or bringing a snack if you are hungry is very helpful. I’m sure I don’t have to tell any of you how a prolonged session, with lots of teasing, spanking, and pegging can leave you all wrung out!
Letting go is sometimes key as many emotions come up! Tell your Mistress you might cry, be angry, shake, or just express the emotions and feelings you need to feel. I remember one time with a sub, after a very intense scene, he just cried for twenty minutes. He wasn’t sad, and he told me later they were tears of joy and gratitude. I was touched. And with Jack, after a really long teasing session, if I allow him release, he shakes with orgasmic aftershocks for a while!
Everyone Needs Aftercare
It could be psychologically damaging for you to play “hard” with your Mistress, then for her to just leave and expect you to be okay! After care is important after every session and should be just as much a part of your BDSM play as negotiation and the actual scene itself. Remember to add aftercare to your scene negotiation. Play safely and have FUN!
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This is a great blog Ms Delia!!! After an intense kink session it’s important to reconnect as people. When the submissive is “floating” in subspace during the scene it’s especially important to reorient with the “real” world … as you’ve said, this is way more than just merely pillow talk … with true D/s the scene starts with the pre-scene negotiations/conversations and ends only after the aftercare.