Submissive Positive Monday, Part 2: Submissives Are Very Important To Me
I started off in the introduction last Monday talking about how I hate the part of BDSM that makes subs think they are worthless, useless and pathetic. To my logical mind, it just doesn’t make sense. My submissives are very important to me, because without submissives, how would I get to let out my dominant inner cockteasing bitch?Okay, it’s not so inner, I’m a cockteasing bitch all the time!)
You are worth something and useful – even if it’s only as a target for my flogger! Seriously though, what I like about being a Femdom is all the reactions I can get out 
of my play things. Hearing the grunts and groans as I’m sliding a strap-on up your ass, or hearing you beg to cum. That’s what gets me off!
You Did That/Took That Really Well
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with praising a slave when they do a good job, although Femdom porn would have you believe that TRUE Dommes don’t do that. Now, that’s not to say that everything you do is going to elicit praise from me. Let’s say you’re really bad at sucking cock (and most men are, surprisingly)! But you keep trying, you listen to my instructions and before long you’re a top notch, grade A cocksucker! Well, I’m going to let you know. And speaking of listening…
I’m Listening To You
Not just to your grunts, screams, whining and moaning, or your begging for release. A good Femdom session, whether it’s over the phone or in person, takes communication from both sides. I listen to what fetishes excite you and what your limits are and what you will not do. Not only do I listen to you beforehand and during our playtime, but I listen afterwards. Let me know how things went, what was good, what wasn’t so good, because I want you to have just as much fun as I’m having.
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Thank You for such an insightful look into ways Your subbies can enhance Your pleasure Mistress. i know when we first met, i was under the misconception that a subbie should be silent, and stoic. Silent about expressing his /her needs and desires before understanding the importance of negotiating. Stoic during the session as to not show signs of weakness.
i have found both of these concepts to be untrue as You stated, both in real time play and during our virtual sessions. i now know how much all those noises You cause me to make do excite You, i love how Tantra classes have helped me become more aware of those noises, keeping my throat Chakra open, and allowing the vibrations of which ever Chakra is most vibrant at the moment to resonate spontaneously. i adore how You pick up on them.
i also know You listen so very well before, during, and after scenes. Thank You for that! And, You are so astute to pick up things my mind can’t form to say, especially when You have me so deep in the blissful abyss of subspace.
The most important thing i picked up here though, is how much i cherish our ability to communicate openly and honestly. This could never truly happen without the deepest mutual trust and respect we have for each other as individuals, and in our respective roles of Owner/pet. You see Mistress, i do not consider myself Your stereotypical slave every day, only occasionally in scenes where that fits Your mood. Instead i most feel like a well cared for pet, heeling perpetually off Your left ankle, enjoying an occasional rub between the ears, a special treat, and being nurtured and trained to best meet Your needs, wants, and desires “in the moment” when we can be together.