What Do You Call Your Dominant?
You should always address your Femdom with respect. Having a title for her and addressing her as such just shows good manners. There are all kinds of examples. Princess, Empress, Goddess, and Mistress are all pretty common ones around LDW. You can get fancy, and call her Maitresse, but make sure you actually know how to pronounce it! As a MILF, I kind of like it when my younger subs call me Ma’am. Kind of adds a dimension of teaching them how to be good slaves to the scene.
Speaking with Respect
Addressing your Mistress with respect isn’t only in the name, it’s also in the way you speak. You should never address her with just her name. You will not please this Mistress if you say “Delia”, without beginning with “Mistress”. Whenever I give a command, like “Stroke your cock for me”, I expect it to be followed by “Yes, Mistress.” Sometimes, Doms – male or female – will require that you show that respect not only to them but to others as well, reinforcing your submissive nature. So, you might get in the habit of addressing others as “sir” or “ma’am” whenever you are out and about.
What If You’re Disrespectful
Punishments for being disrespectful in your Mistress’ eyes will involve the mouth or speech. Of course, I’ve been done to give a quick ball slap to a submissive for forgetting to address me properly. Just like with any kind of D/s training, it’s important that I catch him every single time! So what else might I do? I might make him wear a penis gag for 30 minutes every time he forgets. Nothing like having a cock in your mouth to keep your mind where it belongs! Or I might put clothes pins in his mouth, or make him hold the cane I’m about to redden his ass within that disrespectful hole. After a thorough caning, most slaves remember their manners!
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I have some subtle but odd things that I think relate to my general sense of submissiveness with women.
They are a little odd and therefore I do not speak of them much if at all. Basically I have a certain comfort
with using the word “Mam” if I am speaking to a woman. I don’t know what or why it is. I have never in honesty felt
equal to women. I feel like I am supposed to feel equal so I do not say this much to people who might not understand.
I know now I don’t really want to try to feel equal because I just do not feel that way. Women have always, always felt above me. It is hard to explain and the feeling is very deep.
That is really interesting, Michael!
Thanks for sharing. It may be that you are just naturally submissive.
Ms. Delia
This was really helpful for many of my younger submissives. Although I am a MILF, hearing “Ma’am” reminds me of when I was really young and required to use it for older women! I do not correct anyone, however, allowing ANY sign of respect to be offered.
My real life submissive created the most lovely honorific for me: Sassenach. Both of us adore _Outlander_ (the books and series) and in there, Jamie calls his beloved, “Sassenach,” which means the English Stranger in Gaelic; it is a beautiful term of endearment. I embrace Sassenach with all my heart.
Creativity, for the win!
You know what? Two things that will TOTALLY remind a submissive of all sorts of proper protocols are …
wait for it …..
Caning
and
Chastity!
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And you know, it’s not JUST the words …. but also the vibe that goes along with it. For example a “do me” sub will just “sound” different even when using the “proper” words.
Caning and chastity!
I could not agree more, Ms. Olivia!! Fuck yes, and then some!
Creativity for the win, indeed!
Any form of respect is the correct thing to do! I am so glad you have such a wonderful subby who gives you such endearing respect!
Yes Ma’am! I’ve always been attracted to the confidence and experience of an older woman.
Wonderful, David