I Love Spankings
I recently had a call with “over the knee spanking guy”. He is a spanking aficionado, and spanking is his main fetish, and it is incredibly powerful for him. In fact he was changed by spankings! That call got me to wonder; is spanking for naughty men therapy, discipline, or simply a fetish? I welcome your comments on this blog to hear your answers.
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Discipline Spankings
Discipline spankings are generally tougher, and in the kink world, are not meant to be sensual or fun in any way. Pain is more severe, the Mistress administering the spanking is often cold or giving a lecture. This type of spanking is meant to correct behavior. It is not appropriate for a man with a spanking fetish because he would generally like it, and it would not correct behavior!
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Therapy Spankings
I think therapy spankings, a helpful type of spanking common in the kink world, are used as a release to other worries and pains. In a way one pain, the pain from spanking replaces another pain, and allows the spankee to work through those feelings. The feelings of vulnerability can be used and the sting of spanking is perfect to help reset a negative day, especially with the release of endorphins one gets with a good spanking!
Fetish Spankings
In the D/s world, most spankings are fetish spankings. A man wants to have his naughty bottom paddled and seeks out a Mistress to carry out this task. There is generally a negotiation about the spanking, and a power exchange occurs. The man gives his trust to the Mistress, and there are safe words. Often a fetish spanking can be a sexy role play.
Which spankings have you experienced? Which type is your favorite?
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By far the most spankings I have experienced are fetish spankings. They are fun, and sexy, and the #1 way to get me aroused. They can be painful to a point, and there are often some feelings of vulnerability, humiliation, and sometimes shame, but they all add to the erotic nature of a spanking for me.
I have, in the distance past, dabbled in punishment spankings. They didn’t work at all for behavior change in my case. The sexual allure of the spanking before hand was still there, and part of my brain was always keeping it in a sexual contact. So when the discipline was administered it was more confusing than anything. It felt to me like it was a very poorly given erotic spanking, even though I knew perfectly well the context and reasons.
Personally I think brains can be wired in ways that just can’t be broken. In my case, spankings are sexy, so I plan to keep them that way.
Mistress Delia, I have been on the end of quite a few spankings! They hurt. I am not familiar with a therapy spanking but sure that a discipline spanking has helped changed my thoughts for whatever I did not do correctly. In regards to fetish spanking I have been strapped to both a cross and spanking bench with locked cuffs and nothing in my ability to do about the spanking except scream mercy (or my safeword) if needed. I remember one time it was broadcasted on the web and got a lot of great feedback including my ass being signed the mistresses who administered the spanking. Good topic!
I have had all three n have to say discipline
As mistress gets her point across
N my pain is her pleasure
The way grew up an occasional spanking was a fact of life. They were embarrassing (especially when older) and hurt. But at the same time (I know I did not think this at the time) there was a kind of nurturing. I’d get “spoken” to: go over my transgression. I would have to verbally apologize and sometimes in writing. I would sometimes get held or even hugged afterwards and spoken to softly. I think it left me with a ton of feeling about it all.
Thank You so much for yet another thought provoking topic. While i don’t necessarily consider myself a full blown pain slut…i have come to enjoy a good spanking, especially when delivered by such a skillful Mistress as You Ms. Delia (and a few others here).
i agree wholeheartedly with what You say in Your content, especially since i have experience in all three of the typse of spankings You presented. i also know from speaking with fellow kinksters at play parties, there are as many reasons people come to enjoy spankings as there people who do.
There are two things i would like to add from my introspection throughout today after reading Your text this morning. i fully agree with Your presentation on using spanking for punishment of an errant submissive or slave in a lifestyle relationship. i have seen some really hot scenes between D/s partners at play parties who could skillfully weave a punishment scenario into naughty schoolkid and principal/teacher, or similar acts to incorporate spanking as discipline into a believable session.
The other is the two fold reason i like being spanked: first, it definitely releases enodorphines that accelerate my submersion into the abyss of subspace. Secondly, the sound of Mistress’ giggling or laughing as She senses the ultimate power being given to Her as i demonstrate my commitment and devotion by enduring something uncomfortable for Her enjoyment, to me is priceless and definitely synergizes my own pleasure.
And then there is also the visual of the intimacy of having my naked ass draped across You thighs…So much more enjoyable than a spanking bench or St Andrew’s Cross. 😉
I love fetish spankings but therapy spankings are fabulous too. But when the moods tricks me nothing can replace a discipline spanking. Every sissy should be in chastity whe getting spanked so there are accidents.
Emlit:
I agree about sissies in chastity during a spanking!!
kneelcc, I figured you would like the more intimacy of the OTK spanking! 🙂
Spankings are powerful and often full of emotion and memory!
Sounds like you respond to discipline spankings!
Great point, nonchefjohn!
🙂 I like that. 🙂
I am glad you play with safewords, mer mer! I would love to have you locked on a spanking bench!
wellspanked,
I think I also love fetish spankings the best. Giving is so powerful! The emotions a sub goes through are so amazing for me to see and experience!
Oh my! I love “over the knee” spanking boy! He’s a hoot. I love all of those little songs he sings! So creative. He definitely likes the nurturing kind of spanking, as opposed to the disciplining kind. It reminds of a cartoon I saw where a Mom found a fetish mag under her kids bed and she was telling a friend about it. She said, “I kind of want to spank him, but I am afraid he would enjoy it!”
I have a new pet that is into the catharsis of spanking but he also seems to find it comforting after he relinquishes himself to it. He seems to feel the severe discipline of it prevents him from acting up and makes his harder/harsher punishment paddling sessions less frequent and imperative.
In the past I had mostly fetish spankers so this is new and exciting for me. Wonderful post!
Thanks Ms. Fiona!
Spanking can be comforting to many!! Great thoughts in your comment 🙂
Ms Delia ~ I personally like to receive fetish spankings. I is truly one of my favorite kinks. Although when it comes to giving I prefer to give either a therapy or punishment spanking and preferably a punishment. I guess maybe I do not like to share my fetish – lol. Thank you for starting this conversation. I’ve enjoyed the various point of views.
I’ve enjoyed reading the comments, too. I tend to be more of a fan of inflicting punishment/discipline and therapy spankings. I enjoy fetish spankings when I can layer or build upon that burning bottom sensation with something else—whether it’s toys, clamps, CBT, strap-on, verbal humiliation…I never want my swat subbie to get too comfortable 😉
Ms. Lilly,
I adore your sadistic side so much! 🙂
I figured you would like all you said you did!! 🙂 This is wonderful.
I have found that the fetish spanking can evolve into a discipline spanking given it is administered with the right timing & force. Being naked & vulnerable draped over a perfect lap such as yours Ms Delia & having my butt spanked then intermingled with soft caresses drives me crazy to the point that I find myself craving harder swats I never would have imagined could feel delightful but are when timed with soft smooth caresses. Then it no longer matters what “type” of spanking it is called. At that point it isnt pain, it isnt pleasure. Labels are obliviated. All that is left is to just let go, bask in Mistresses sweet laughter as I plead to Her to lead me further into newer & unexplored sub space. Truly, its the only way to fly.
I totally agree, kneelsforheels!
(And such a lovely visual, lol) Soft spanks, and harder spanks are great when intermingled! Getting into that sub space DOES seem to wipe away the labels!
Dear Mistress Delia,
I am glad that the subject of spanking is presented on this blog and some of the other mistress blogs. Spankings and whippings are a great supplement to my edging, tease and denial, orgasm denial, and Tantra. Being into the lifestyle, they serve to keep me disciplined.
I have received LOTS of adult spankings and whippings from many mistresses. For me, those spankings and whippings are more of a fetish, as paddles, wooden spoons, leather straps, canes, and other implements are used. In fact, I first started out visiting various female domination establishments, where I would have sessions, where I would receive spankings, whippings, and my introductions into CBT. Now, I am part of a group that gets together for BSDM activities. These sessions and parties involve several mistresses and a few male subs.
To have a woman spank or whip me is a big turn on and very sexually arousing, and I like hearing the swishing of the whips or the sounds and sensation of a paddle on my naked ass. Being into CBT, having my testicles spanked may initially cause a sharp and quick pain; however, in less than a minute those sensations change into something quite pleasurable. A series of such percussion swats to the testicles will result in a mixture of pleasure and pain. This also makes my cock very hard and any guided masturbation session extra intense.
Even though spanking is mostly a fetish for me, there are times, when a mistress or some mistresses may want to punish me. In those cases, a caning will be more severe, such that some welts will appear on my naked ass.
Last, the spanking fetish is also part of an array for fetishes, such as foot and leg worship, face sitting, and breast worship.
Thank you, agin, for this great post!
You’re very welcome, cum filled balls!
I do know you enjoy both a good, hard fetish spanking, and a testicle spanking too! Thanks so much for your comment! You are correct, we Mistresses DO love to spank here!!
My Ms is of the opinion thst discipline spanking are very beneficial to remind the make maid who is open charge and also a useful tool for correction.
However, she also employs fetish spanking, usually using the back of her hairbrush when she is in a playful moid
I would agree, MaidSteph!
Spankings can take on many forms for many reasons. And, a playful Mistress sure is a fun Mistress!