Handsfree Orgasm – A Fantasy
A lot of men I talk to – whether callers or at munches or other BDSM events – seem to be consumed with the idea of having an orgasm without using their hands. The strict definition would be to cum completely without any penile stimulation. However, like anything in BDSM, this definition has some space for different interpretations and I distinguish between two different types of handsfree orgasms.
Orgasm With Cock Stimulation
You’re going to find hundreds, if not thousands, of porn clips on the internet all tagged with “Hands Free Orgasm.” You know what 95% of them have in common? There’s some cock stroking going on before the hand moves away and that dick spurts out it’s jizz. If you want to be technical, jerking a cock and then just taking the hands off before cumming is indeed a ‘handsfree orgasms’, but only in the widest sense of the term. If an orgasm is achieved with initial masturbation I would rather just call it a ‘ruined orgasm’, (an abandoned orgasm specifically) because it’s nothing more than that.
Orgasm Without Cock Stimulation
Want a real handsfree orgasm? They do exist, and you can get one by using the PC-muscle (the pubicoccygeal muscle – I’m not writing it out again!). That’s the muscle you use to make your cock bounce – or, when I’m teasing you, the one that makes it twitch! This muscle is also always strained when you have an orgasm because it stimulates the prostate. Alternate straining and relaxing it enough, and it will lead to an orgasm completely without touching your cock for a single second. Of course, this requires some exercise. I have a whole bunch of posts on how to train your PC muscle, and you can always Google it. The key is to strain it for longer and longer periods of time. Work on it slut, and you can realize your fantasy.
There are two more types of handsfree orgasms. Make sure you check out Fem Fabulous for the Sissygasm and Anal Training Phonesex for The Assgasm! They won’t be up for a few days, so keep checking…
How about E-stim?
Thank You Ms. Delia for this post. i have had a hands free orgasm with a former Mistress Who was a Tantric Leader. She guided me through the chacras and exploded. For anyone who wants to experience this i urge you to try.
I love that you’ve drawn out the distinction between the two types of hands free orgasms. I’ve seen the first before, and always been a bit amused to see it called a hands free orgasm; a lot of guys really really want to cum without touching, but once they’ve had a ruined orgasm, they change their minds. There’s a definite difference between the two experiences, and I hate to see people misled into thinking they’d hate a hands free because they accidentally gave themselves a ruined orgasm.
If just the PC exercises aren’t quite enough, I’d also advise adding in some hip motion, as if trying to fuck the air. Clenching the anus can also help, as it provides auxiliary stimulation to the prostate. And of course, some Tantric breathing exercises can’t help but add to the whole experience…
mmm, I do love a nice hands free orgasm…
xoxo
H.
SO true, Ms. Harper!!
I love your suggestion about hip motion. Every little thrust can help!!
Hands free can be so amazing!
Ms. Delia
Sounding, I LOVE estim toys, but was writing this particular post for those who have none 😉 If you would love to play with yours for a handsfree experience, do that! I am happy to help!
Ms. Delia
How wonderful a Tantric Mistress taught you!!
Thanks so much for this comment.
Ms. Delia
LOL….okay, so your point about what the internet calls a “hands free orgasm” has me thinking of very wildly wicked things like tricking a poor unsuspecting submissive into one of these hands free–i.e. ruined–orgasms. “Well, you said you wanted to try a hands free orgasm! You came without my hand on you, didn’t you?” 😉
Ah Delia and Harper! So experienced and wise! I’m curious about a 4 way with my Lordess Brighton……hmmmmm….Every Mistress I’ve talked to has truly been perfect! These blogs are so exciting! Muah!